Mother's

This evening I watched six children both mourn the loss of their mother but also celebrate her life. As I watched the children talk about the life they had with their mother, it was amazing. Even talking about times they got in trouble or weekly rituals they hated made them laugh. The treasured memories that are burned in their minds forever. This was a great mother, just knowing her for almost 10 years changed part of my life forever.

But I also have the luxury of a remarkable mother. On the important stuff she is never wrong. Her unconditional love is amazing, her sense of humor will keep you in stitches and her grace the way she goes through life is beautiful. Sometimes it may not seem like it but I wouldn't trade even a minuscule of time with her for anything.

Then I know way too many people who have had to bury their mother at way too young an age. Their whole world shattered. Unsure how to live life without her. No more Sunday lunches, no more early morning calls to help get the day started, no more Saturday shopping ventures, no more chats over coffee, all of those special moments that you only shared with mom, gone. Trying to continue that special time without her just isn't the same and trying to fill that space with something else can be so painful.

So here is what I don't understand.............In my life time I have heard children say I hate you to their mother or worse call them names. This is the woman who carried you for 9 months, rocked you into slumber while operating an maybe 3-4 hours of sleep herself, the bible even says Honor thy father and thy mother. I know people who spending time with their mother is simply too much trouble.

Currently, I have a friend who has been caring for her mother for about two years. Her mother has Alzheimer's and it makes some days very stressful and difficult. In recent days, her mother is very hateful and mean to her. Her mother is ill and she is just trying to give her the best care possible and it is really taking a toll on her. In about a month or so her mother will go to a home that will better care for her medical needs. Sometimes I get calls from her and she is really frustrated and she can't wait for her to be at the home. This is a new facility that is being built they are just waiting for it to be open.

I ask her you don't really mean that. Then I say one of these days she will be gone and your heart will have a hole that will never be filled again. You will miss her when she is gone. At this point there is a BIG sigh in the conversation. I get some type of response like yes I know. It is kind of like I replenished her because I reminded her life will not always be like this and cherish what little time you have left.

Mother's are a precious gift and never not even for a second be taken for granted.

I love you mom~Chelsea

TTFN