Because of my experience with Madelynn's heart journey, I volunteer with Camp LUCK (www.CampLUCK.com)to help other families in crisis. It is not a pretty job but it is one I believe does the most good. I get to remind people they are not alone in their journey. I have no problem being the sounding board when they are angry. I love to share their joys of victory when an appointment went well or a surgery went better that expected. But I won't lie it is a very emotional ride. One I wholeheartedly agree to take every time I am matched with a family in need.
Recently, my work life and my volunteer Camp LUCK life have become a little blurry. Suddenly I receive calls from families reaching out to the church because they have a need. The Ronald McDonald house is full and they need a place too stay near the hospital. Their funds are low and they need a few things and they live more than 25 miles from the hospital. All of these things happen every day. When it's a heart family I try to offer emotional support since I have been there.
Most of time I can connect them with a community group that will help with that financial need. Most of the time I don't hear from them again. For what ever reason most of the time I am completely ok with that. I can look myself in the mirror everyday and know I gave it my all.
There are however those families who change your life FOREVER.
It doesn't seem right. I signed up to help them and they are changing me.
I found a letter I had written to a family. Their heart warrior was in bad shape, waiting for a transplant and really thought they needed to be planning a funeral. I started to cry when I left from visiting that family. The mother said I would cry with you but I have no more tears to cry. I can't imagine feeling so broken and disheartened that you can't cry anymore tears. It made me cry harder all the way home. I prayed for this family and asked God is this really the end for them it just seems so unfair. A few hours later the call came for a new heart and on Easter Sunday this warrior was given new life. A few months later I received a message of thanks and the mom said, "I know how to find you if I need you again".
My energy to continue helping these families was renewed. God really has a plan for them and me.
In March, a family needed help to stay at the Hospitality House near the hospital. At the recommendation of the Hospitality House the family called the church and I received the call. If you knew how difficult it was to actually reach me if you didn't know me at the church....almost impossible. (Yes I know it was God's plan).
It was a heart family who had exhausted all of their funds to stay in Charlotte near their very sick heart warrior. I was able to connect them with another community group that went above and beyond to keep this family together until the warrior succumb to her failing heart and died. I felt completely helpless unsure anything I said helped them. I left them with a few gifts from the church, a few kind words, a hug and a few tears.
In truth, I felt completely helpless, cried all the way home and hugged and Thanked God for my children when I got there. I have to force myself to just lift the family to God in hopes he will provide the right people and tools to help them grieve since they lived out of the area. The thought of going home empty still makes me cry.
As I shifted my focus to whatever else God had in store for me and I was engulfed in my own family chaos last week I received this text.
".....I haven't had a sincere way to Thank You but I am so grateful for your help. You helped me stay by my child's side and that means so much to me. I couldn't repay you if I could so I just wanted to say Thank You again. I can't say you were wrong either because I was not ok. I've never been so hurt in my life. I tried to be strong but it really does hurt. I saw that you were a very sincere person. I love that you are a Godly Woman. I've never seen someone care the way that you do. I have a lot of growing and changing to do in my life. I hope to have a heart as big as yours. Thanks again."
Just another reminder that it is ok that my volunteer life with Camp LUCK and my job at the church will get a little blurry and God will provide the clarity.
TTFN~
Wednesday, July 29, 2015
Monday, July 20, 2015
Happy 10th Birthday Jackson!!
Today Jackson enters in the double digits never to return to single digits again. I could be sad and some days I am sure I will be. But today I am very excited for his new adventures to begin. I can't wait to see what this world has in store for him.
HAPPY 10th BIRTHDAY JACKSON!!
Love you to the moon and back!!
Mama
**Due to copyrighting I could not use Verge by Owl City so I chose the song in this video. It was not Jackson's favorite but he said it will do. I on the other hand was totally bummed.**
Friday, July 17, 2015
How do you get it all done??
Someone once asked me ..."How do you do it?? How do you get it all done??"
The truth is I don't.
My regular weeks are jammed packed full from about 5:30 am until about midnight or later. Most days I am operating on about 4-5 hours of sleep. I still don't get it all done.
Currently, I am sleeping on my mattress on the floor (in our extra bedroom) because I am stripping the popcorn ceiling out of the master bedroom. All three of my kids are in camp from 10 am - 3 pm while I am working. To give you an example Monday I was at the office with all three of my kids by 9:00. At 10:00 I walk them over to the camp on the church campus. I worked until 3:00 grabbed the kids, came home, cleaned some of the house, made dinner, worked on the ceiling, showered and went to bed.
However, Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday I put Madelynn on the bus for tutoring, get to the office by 9:30, kids at camp by 10:00, leave the office at 10:45 go get Madelynn from tutoring, take her to camp, work until 3:00, get kids, run a few errands, clean a little house, dinner, ceiling, shower and finally bed.
As a Parent it is never ending. This does not include soccer training, practices, and in about 7-8 weeks games or other things I volunteer my time for (LOL!!). They all have summer homework reading and math, chores and fun. For me it means washing and drying all the clothes Sunday and folding and putting away Monday; last nights dinner dishes get done this morning or mowing the grass Tuesday and weeding the flower beds Thursday. I always consider what has to be done, how long it will take and what day I can fit it in.
I do not get it all done and I fail at things all the time. Sometimes I didn't get Jackson's favorite shorts washed or I promised Madelynn I would read to her and she fell asleep. The best part about these failures is they are mine and I am ok with it. It might mean I have to get up earlier the next day to make sure the shorts are ready or read two books tomorrow night but that's ok.
My "To Do" list is a book and my "Wish List" are just dreams. I have learned to just keep moving forward. Once I finish the Master Bedroom I only have three more spaces and the whole house has beautiful flat ceilings. Not only that I paid for it all with my two, yes TWO, side jobs so no debt was incurred.
I do not have the best and biggest house, multiple cars, or six figure salary. I have a husband who loves me and works his butt off every day, children who love me, a roof over my head, and food in my cupboards, a job (or three) and friends who don't judge me. The rest of it does not matter. If at the end of the day I can look myself in the mirror and say you gave today 100% NOTHING ELSE MATTER.
There is always tomorrow. When you wonder how all the other mom's get it done?? They don't either; they just keep moving forward.
TTFN~
The truth is I don't.
My regular weeks are jammed packed full from about 5:30 am until about midnight or later. Most days I am operating on about 4-5 hours of sleep. I still don't get it all done.
Currently, I am sleeping on my mattress on the floor (in our extra bedroom) because I am stripping the popcorn ceiling out of the master bedroom. All three of my kids are in camp from 10 am - 3 pm while I am working. To give you an example Monday I was at the office with all three of my kids by 9:00. At 10:00 I walk them over to the camp on the church campus. I worked until 3:00 grabbed the kids, came home, cleaned some of the house, made dinner, worked on the ceiling, showered and went to bed.
However, Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday I put Madelynn on the bus for tutoring, get to the office by 9:30, kids at camp by 10:00, leave the office at 10:45 go get Madelynn from tutoring, take her to camp, work until 3:00, get kids, run a few errands, clean a little house, dinner, ceiling, shower and finally bed.
As a Parent it is never ending. This does not include soccer training, practices, and in about 7-8 weeks games or other things I volunteer my time for (LOL!!). They all have summer homework reading and math, chores and fun. For me it means washing and drying all the clothes Sunday and folding and putting away Monday; last nights dinner dishes get done this morning or mowing the grass Tuesday and weeding the flower beds Thursday. I always consider what has to be done, how long it will take and what day I can fit it in.
I do not get it all done and I fail at things all the time. Sometimes I didn't get Jackson's favorite shorts washed or I promised Madelynn I would read to her and she fell asleep. The best part about these failures is they are mine and I am ok with it. It might mean I have to get up earlier the next day to make sure the shorts are ready or read two books tomorrow night but that's ok.
My "To Do" list is a book and my "Wish List" are just dreams. I have learned to just keep moving forward. Once I finish the Master Bedroom I only have three more spaces and the whole house has beautiful flat ceilings. Not only that I paid for it all with my two, yes TWO, side jobs so no debt was incurred.
I do not have the best and biggest house, multiple cars, or six figure salary. I have a husband who loves me and works his butt off every day, children who love me, a roof over my head, and food in my cupboards, a job (or three) and friends who don't judge me. The rest of it does not matter. If at the end of the day I can look myself in the mirror and say you gave today 100% NOTHING ELSE MATTER.
There is always tomorrow. When you wonder how all the other mom's get it done?? They don't either; they just keep moving forward.
TTFN~
Tuesday, June 23, 2015
Random Acts of Kindness..........
"Carry out a random act of kindness, with no exception of reward, safe in the knowledge that one day someone might do the same for you." - Princess Diana
Throughout our marriage people have to come to Phil and I and asked for help. Whether it be money, free babysitting, a car ride. Someone was broke and needed a little grocery money we gave it to them. Someone had to work late and no sitter, the kids came to our house. Someone needed a ride to the store we gave it to them.
We didn't do these things to pat ourselves on the back. We did them because someone did it for us. Having three children under the age of five was not part of OUR plan it was God's plan. Because we took on this challenge HE made sure we were always provided for.
During the Spring Soccer Season I worked in the concession stand four times. People stopped me and asked why? My response, "They needed help."
When we needed help after Madelynn's Heart surgery, people stepped up in droves. Some days it brought me to tears. I would get calls everyday, "What can I do to help?". Because of these acts of kindness, we never missed a meal, had a utility cut off, missed a doctor's appointment and Kaitlynn and Jackson NEVER missed a day of school.
About a month ago I was in a car accident. I was fine but my car was a little banged up. I was told my car was drivable until it could be fixed. The were wrong.
I was travelling on the highway doing the 70mph speed limit and my bumper flew off. It was dragging behind my car hanging on by a very mighty but small cable. It was one of the back up sensor cables.
I was alone. I pull over and cars are flying passed me doing at least 70. I get out of the car it is almost 100 degrees out and I am trying to disconnect the cable so I can put my bumper in the car and get to my destination.
I cannot disconnect the cable. I text a picture to Phil and he cannot help me. Suddenly a man pulls up, parks and says, "Need some help?" Within a few minutes he and I get the cable disconnected, the bumper in my car and I am on my way.
I realized two things. The small and mighty are always strong enough. Someone will always be there when you need it most.
You have no idea how your random act of kindness will change some one's day, week or life.
TTFN~
Tuesday, June 9, 2015
Happy Promotion Day Punkin (aka Kaitlynn)
It seems like yesterday I was standing at the gymnasium door waiting for you to walk through for your Kindergarten assessment day. But just like that day and every other day you will handle today with Amazing Grace and excitement. We are so proud of you for giving everyday your heart and soul to do your very best.
We are so proud to be your parents and can't wait to see what your future holds. We love you to the moon and back, to infinity and beyond, forever and ever. Hugs and Kisses, Mom and Dad
TTFN~
Sunday, May 31, 2015
Time to go through the door God keeps opening........
About halfway through the soccer season Kaitlynn had the game of her life. The team lost in the end but she played the best I had ever seen her. As her parents, I am sure we can come off a little biased. However, we had several people from the opposing team approach us after the game. They could not believe how good she is. Phil and I just kind of looked at each other, smiled and said "Thank you".
A few weeks ago there were tryouts for a challenge travel team. Phil and I wanted to know what other people thought of her ability so we let her try out. We weren't sure she would make it and definitely could not afford it but we wanted to see what others would say about her. The night of the tryouts before the evaluators left the field, they found me volunteering in the concession stand.
I explained our reasons for letting her try out. I also explained that she is only 11 and would be playing on a U13 team; being one of the youngest made me nervous. Finally I explained it was very expensive to play and not in our budget this year. We would have to consider it next year. They really wanted her to play and offered to help with the cost.
Finally I thanked them and told them I needed to talk it over with Kaitlynn and Phil. Needless to say we were very surprised. After a few days of conversation, Kaitlynn told us she did not want to leave her existing team. When I asked her why she could not tell me. Up until this point Phil and I had kept our opinions to ourselves.
I could not keep my opinion to myself any longer. I asked Kaitlynn if she was saying "No" because of her fear of the unknown. She did not answer. So I laid my opinion out there.
We do not, NOT do something out of fear. If she really wants to try it but is afraid we do it together; as a family. She will never be with out us. She will not lose her existing friends and teammates she will just make new ones. If she tries it and hates it we will take her back to her old team. I also explained to her that every time I run across this team and we shut the door; God blows the door back open. We needed to listen to the opportunity and try it. A few hours later she decided that YES she would try it.
Today was the last day and game with her existing team. It was very hard after the game. Kaitlynn made her coach cry because she was crying. He announced that she was leaving the team and moving up. We received lots of hugs and congratulations. It was a very bittersweet day. We have thoroughly enjoyed being a part of the Lady Hurricanes.
The Soccer Moms (and families) are the Bomb!! The players have amazing personalities and never cease to amaze me. I know that even if we tried (which we never would) we are stuck with our Lady Hurricane families and I wouldn't want it any other way. Thank you for allowing us to join the family and welcoming us with open arms. Thank you for all the laughs in the hopes there are many more. Thank you to Coach Danny, John, Scott and Wayne for making a space for her on the team when there wasn't one, for letting her train as a goalie, for teaching her to be a better player and allowing her to move up with her head held high. She would have never reached this opportunity with out you.
We will share more when the adventure gets started. Go Hurricanes!!
TTFN~
A few weeks ago there were tryouts for a challenge travel team. Phil and I wanted to know what other people thought of her ability so we let her try out. We weren't sure she would make it and definitely could not afford it but we wanted to see what others would say about her. The night of the tryouts before the evaluators left the field, they found me volunteering in the concession stand.
I explained our reasons for letting her try out. I also explained that she is only 11 and would be playing on a U13 team; being one of the youngest made me nervous. Finally I explained it was very expensive to play and not in our budget this year. We would have to consider it next year. They really wanted her to play and offered to help with the cost.
Finally I thanked them and told them I needed to talk it over with Kaitlynn and Phil. Needless to say we were very surprised. After a few days of conversation, Kaitlynn told us she did not want to leave her existing team. When I asked her why she could not tell me. Up until this point Phil and I had kept our opinions to ourselves.
I could not keep my opinion to myself any longer. I asked Kaitlynn if she was saying "No" because of her fear of the unknown. She did not answer. So I laid my opinion out there.
We do not, NOT do something out of fear. If she really wants to try it but is afraid we do it together; as a family. She will never be with out us. She will not lose her existing friends and teammates she will just make new ones. If she tries it and hates it we will take her back to her old team. I also explained to her that every time I run across this team and we shut the door; God blows the door back open. We needed to listen to the opportunity and try it. A few hours later she decided that YES she would try it.
Today was the last day and game with her existing team. It was very hard after the game. Kaitlynn made her coach cry because she was crying. He announced that she was leaving the team and moving up. We received lots of hugs and congratulations. It was a very bittersweet day. We have thoroughly enjoyed being a part of the Lady Hurricanes.
The Soccer Moms (and families) are the Bomb!! The players have amazing personalities and never cease to amaze me. I know that even if we tried (which we never would) we are stuck with our Lady Hurricane families and I wouldn't want it any other way. Thank you for allowing us to join the family and welcoming us with open arms. Thank you for all the laughs in the hopes there are many more. Thank you to Coach Danny, John, Scott and Wayne for making a space for her on the team when there wasn't one, for letting her train as a goalie, for teaching her to be a better player and allowing her to move up with her head held high. She would have never reached this opportunity with out you.
We will share more when the adventure gets started. Go Hurricanes!!
TTFN~
Sunday, May 10, 2015
Learning along the Journey......
I am a daughter, sister, wife and mother. I have been a friend, student, 3rd shift grocery stocker, cashier, floral clerk, accounting clerk, office accountant and heart mom. I still am a friend, office accountant and a heart mom.
Throughout this journey I have learned to
Smile and Laugh EVERYDAY
Tell the truth even if it is the hardest thing you have ever done
Love with your WHOLE heart
Be a best friend to EVERYONE
Say I'm Sorry and Mean It
Do your best at everything
Pray, pray every day and for every thing
These are not easy things. Life is hard. I can think of some of my worst days and I still found something to smile or laugh about. It is not easy to look your friend in the face and tell them the truth even though it will make they cry. You shouldn't love any thing half way. It must be all or nothing.
Because you never know what struggle your friend is carrying it is imperative to always be a best friend. You might be the thing that changes their day or helps them find their smile during the ugly days. I am far from perfect and make mistakes everyday. Acknowledging that and saying I'm sorry must be done.
At the end of the day I stew about whether I gave it my best. If I didn't I figure out why or what I need to do. I don't get it right every day but I can look myself in the mirror and know I gave it my all. I pray everyday for everything. If my friend calls because something happened I pray about it. When my kids get on the bus I pray for their safe return to me and for open minds to become the best people they can. I pray for my husband's safety at work. I also pray in thanksgiving we made it through the day.
As we celebrate Mother's Day, I know life is hard. But the reward of being a Mom and celebrating everything that comes with it is worth every drop of blood, sweat and tears. Don't forget to share what you learned along the way.
Special Love to Mom as I get to see her today.
TTFN~
Throughout this journey I have learned to
Smile and Laugh EVERYDAY
Tell the truth even if it is the hardest thing you have ever done
Love with your WHOLE heart
Be a best friend to EVERYONE
Say I'm Sorry and Mean It
Do your best at everything
Pray, pray every day and for every thing
These are not easy things. Life is hard. I can think of some of my worst days and I still found something to smile or laugh about. It is not easy to look your friend in the face and tell them the truth even though it will make they cry. You shouldn't love any thing half way. It must be all or nothing.
Because you never know what struggle your friend is carrying it is imperative to always be a best friend. You might be the thing that changes their day or helps them find their smile during the ugly days. I am far from perfect and make mistakes everyday. Acknowledging that and saying I'm sorry must be done.
At the end of the day I stew about whether I gave it my best. If I didn't I figure out why or what I need to do. I don't get it right every day but I can look myself in the mirror and know I gave it my all. I pray everyday for everything. If my friend calls because something happened I pray about it. When my kids get on the bus I pray for their safe return to me and for open minds to become the best people they can. I pray for my husband's safety at work. I also pray in thanksgiving we made it through the day.
As we celebrate Mother's Day, I know life is hard. But the reward of being a Mom and celebrating everything that comes with it is worth every drop of blood, sweat and tears. Don't forget to share what you learned along the way.
Special Love to Mom as I get to see her today.
TTFN~
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